Why Am I Sabotaging My Personal Growth?

Change is hard. I can’t overstate that fact.

There is something within most of us that is inherently resistant to it.

So how do we develop the endurance we need to defy this oppositional force within us?

In this blog, I’m going to look at one strategy you can use to help you accomplish a change you want in your life.

You will want to start by making an intention. An intention is setting a desired outcome that you really want to obtain in your life.   (I set an intention to write a weekly blog in 2016.)

Write it down. (I keep a journal nearby. The act of putting this intention on paper is helpful to the process. It feels more certain to happen when you see it in black and white.)

Then tell it to someone that will encourage you and celebrate with you along the way to accomplishing this change. (I belong to a group that meets quarterly and retreats once a year for this purpose.)

Next, it’s important to determine what steps lie between where you are now and where you want to be. (I needed a website with a “blog” feature, some capital and also time in my schedule to make this a priority.)

What resources do you need to put in place to have success? (I sought quotes from three website companies and chose one that clearly delineated how they could make my vision a reality. I also made significant changes in my schedule and increased my fees for services to provide needed capital.)

I accidentally had some luck along the way. You will, too!

I am a podcast fiend (my family mocks me mercilessly) and I found podcasts that taught me about ways to combine my love of writing with effective technology to reach a community of like-minded people.

Next, I needed a plan of action that would give structure to what I wanted to accomplish. (I am focusing on themes that are calling for more growth in my own life – living authentically, embracing self-kindness, developing deeper awareness, granting grace to others, and so on. If I had an extra minute, I was happy to spend it at the most paying online casino.

I also chose specific practices – expressing gratefulness, meditating, challenging self-critical thoughts and being generous to others – designed to help me live the life I want to live with no regrets.


This intention to change is now in alignment with who I am and how I want to interact in this world. Review yours and make sure this is true for you, too.

Remember, this is a process and you may not get it just right the first time.

Two steps forward and one step back is still moving forward!

And when you have success, no matter how seemingly small or insignificant,


Celebration gives us the energy we need to push against the pesky resistance that lies within.

Reflection questions:

What is one area in your life where you want to see change?

What people and resources are available to you to help you find the fortitude you need to make this change?

What is one daily practice you can put into place to help you accomplish this desire within you?